Orgasms After 40 Oh Yes!

Understanding the clitoral network and how to find your G-spot

Mid-life orgasms and sex are good. Really good. That's right orgasms after 40 oh yes please! And here's why. The great thing about being in your 40s and beyond, is that by now you have hopefully been having some good sex with your partner (and yourself) and even know how to find that elusive G-spot. You've figured out every detail of your body, what brings you the greatest pleasure and where that "mythical" orgasmic area known as the G-spot is. It’s called wisdom baby!

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Photo by Deon Black

You thought you knew about your body and what sex was in your teens, 20s, and even 30s. But the truth is that sex and masturbation are so much better now that you are older and wiser. Orgasms after 40 are awesome. And here’s why. Well first, is the obvious—this ain't your first rodeo. By now you’ve saddled up with a few partners, and practice makes perfect, or at least better.

Fertility app Natural Cycles, conducted a survey of over 2,600 women on their sex lives and found there were some pretty interesting patterns amongst women in the different age groups. But here's the gem. Like previous studies have found, they discovered that sex may get better with age.

We’ve all heard of the 10,000-hour rule, which was popularized by Malcolm Gladwell's blockbuster book “Outliers.” Gladwell says the rule goes like this.

"It takes 10,000 hours of intensive practice to achieve mastery of complex skills and materials, like playing the violin or to become a computer programmer like Bill Gates."

Malcolm Gladwell Outliers

By now we've put in well over those 10,000 hours pleasuring ourselves and our bodies which makes us MASTERS! Is this where the term masturbation comes from? The English word masturbate comes from Latin manus (hand), Latin disturbare (disturb) so thanks to a lot of sex and masturbation, we know exactly what we like, what we want, what we don't want and where we want to go. Orgasm, we definitely want to orgasm!

X Marks the Spot: Orgasms After 40

See the thing is by now you know your body better than ever, you are in your stride sexually, mentally, and physically and you're not afraid to tell your partner(s) what you like and how you want it. That's why orgasms after 40 are the best. You can openly talk about masturbation and even share vibrator recommendations with your girlfriends.

Please shop our post below for the absolute most recommended vibrators to get your vibe on. You’ve seen all the shapes, sizes, and colors there are to see (well hopefully you have on some level.) But by now you’ve quite literally tasted a little bit of everything, the good, the bad, the ugly, and the heavenly.

Why Is The G-Spot Important and Orgasms After 40

Ain't nothin' but a G thang baby. OK so the G-Spot is part of your clitoral network. Yes, it’s an entire network. Our vaginas are complex and composed of many parts, ALL of which are important and help you reach peak pleasure. Fun fact, the clitoris has 6,000 to 8,000 nerve endings; twice as many as the penis.

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Photo by Dainis Graveris

Clearly, vaginas are dynamic and complex. And the truth is there just hasn’t been enough studies about the female orgasm. We know entirely way too much about the male penis and how men orgasm (and how simple that is to attain for them), but if you have a vagina then you’ve had to do the research yourself and take a DIY approach to figure it all out. Nobody writes about it, nobody talks about it, and it's not in the curriculum of any book.

Orgasms After 40:The Punani Is Complex

The search for the legendary and somewhat mythical highly erogenous vaginal region, the Gräfenberg spot (G-spot), is not easy to find and or understand. In 1950, Dr. Gräfenberg wrote about “an erotic zone [that] could be demonstrated on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra,” and that “this particular area was more easily stimulated by the finger than the other areas of the vagina.”

It wasn’t until the 1980s, however, that other researchers bestowed his name to the now-famous spot. We love the 80s! Also, big shoutout to Dr. G for taking the time to research and write about this. Apparently, all the other doctors and researchers were too focused on za' penis.

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The above image is what a woman's clitoris actually looks like. Oh, also we highly recommend reading this fantastic article titled 9 Sex Tips From Lesbians to Help Hetero Women Have More and Better Orgasms. Because well, the more you know.

In fact, research shows that same-sex-loving women scored more orgasms. And again the G-spot is not just one spot, it’s part of a bigger network. Some women are able to find pleasure there, others not so much. Women can generally have 5 types of orgasms: Clitoral, Vaginal, Anal, Combo and Erogenous.

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The clitoral organ system actually surrounds the vagina, urethra and anus. But don't think of an orgasm as "vaginal" or "clitoral", it makes more sense to think of orgasm in terms of the feelings that came along with it. A lot of women can also experience energetic orgasms.

An energy orgasm is an orgasm that can be experienced “energetically” via the energy body, without any physical stimulation, even though you will still physically feel it. These types of orgasms are produced by harnessing the flow of EROS or Chi or Kundalini energy already flowing through our bodies. It takes time, practice and breath work to achieve this type of orgasm but when and if you do, it's a thrill to say the least.

How To Find Your G-Spot

Two words. Come hither. Take your index finger and literally recreate the motion as if you were telling somebody to come here, come hither, or come closer. You have to lift upward towards your belly button. Use your finger or a toy, whatever is clever.

Everyone is different, so do what works best. And it’s not a guarantee that you will be satisfied, not all women find the same pleasure, so this may not rock your world 100 percent. But at the very least, you can try. There’s no right or wrong way to orgasm. I mean why aren’t we taught more about achieving orgasm at a younger age?

Best Positions to Hit The G-Spot

Just know that you probably won’t achieve orgasm and hit the G-spot doing it missionary style. It’s better to try out positions like Doggy Style, Cowgirl, or Reverse Cowgirl.

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Photo by Deon Black

But whatever you do, like the band Journey says, "Don't Stop Believing" And for that matter, don't stop trying or enjoying the ride, however you get there. The beauty of middle age is that you and your body have gone through a lot together, and that's a really good thing. Confidence in yourself and comfortability in your own skin makes it easier to shed your inhibitions, so relax and enjoy the ride.

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